“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”∼ Epictetus
The concept of happiness has multiple meanings and many have tried to give it the right denotation through a number of ideologies, facts, and definitions. The notion of happiness means different things to different people. It may be enjoying the company of family or friends for some, it may be related to losing weight or achieving a goal for others, and for some, happiness may be as simple as enjoying a stroll along the beach, healthy eating, or even eating their favorite food. Happiness thus, differs from individual to individual.
Many of these psychological aspects are focused on specific ways of thinking and acting, which can have a strong impact on our well-being, happiness, and sense of contentment. In short, these little and utmost simple things in life, which if lived to the fullest, can lead to happiness and satisfaction in the 30s and beyond.
Another aspect to happy living in your 30s and beyond is maintaining good health and taking care of finances. Focus on mental and physical health and fitness. This will result in feeling good from within, encouraging anti-aging which will show itself physically on the body, especially on the face.
Caring for family members, connecting with friends, giving back to society in one way or another, traveling, reading, and so on, will not only result in happiness and satisfaction in the 30s, but will also create wonderful memories and lessons to share with others. However, time and energy are needed to achieve all this. For instance, devoting time to family and friends, or to travel, and so on, no matter how busy life gets. Saving money to gain financial stability is also recommended. Having stable a relationship with a partner, starting a family, or having a good environment at home also contribute to happiness and good health.
These are some habits attributed to happy people.
- Being a true friend who is understanding, compassionate and without judgment. Happy people build strong and true friendships with a few, and express genuine interest towards them.
- Showing small acts of kindness. This brings a person closer to happiness and is one of the simplest ways to a positive psyche.
- Having a sound body and mind by keeping fit and eating well. This is strongly linked to battling depression and stress, thus keeping one happy.
- Having a “flow.” This is an intrinsic motivation that provides immense happiness, perhaps through art, dance, music, or sport.
- Being spiritual. This takes a person to a deep level, engaging mentally activity which is often closely related to happiness. A combination of one’s strengths (positive thinking, patience) along with virtues (humanity, compassion) brings one closer to a happy life.
- Being humble and thankful. This trains the mind to be optimistic by seeing the good in everything, resulting in happiness.
15 Tips for a Happy Life in Your 30s
Create Your Own Definition of ‘Wellness’
Be it a diet choice or fitness routine, create a mindset for your activities so you never have to say, “I can’t do it.” Wellness differs for each person. Thus, it is essential to find out what it means to you, and practice it every single day. Stick to something you want to accomplish and work every day to get a little closer to your goal.
Take a Closer Look at Your Plate
It’s never a good option to choose convenience over nutrition. Go grocery shopping and try to pick at least one healthy substitute for your daily supplies including rice, sugar, wheat, potatoes, dairy products, and so on. Try to avoid products high in sugar, and opt for fresh and natural foods with no additives. Eating healthy doesn’t mean clearing out the entire kitchen pantry and replacing it with healthy ingredients. Change a little every day. Do not totally deprive yourself of your favorite food; have it once in a while.
Trick Your Mind into Smart Eating
Be it replacing white bread with whole wheat, sugary treats with fresh fruits, and fizzy drinks with healthy smoothies, or fried chicken with grilled; there are countless ways to make a big difference in a small way. With a little compromise and a few small changes, eating habits can be transformed completely. Change one unhealthy habit each day and it will change your lifestyle gradually.
Focus on How You Eat
Taking a break from your routine to make dining a shared experience with friends or family goes a long way to gain and retain happiness. This ‘time out’ allows you to bond, lets you focus on eating habits, and makes for a satisfying experience. Use this time to talk to others, share experiences, or simply enjoy their company.
Add One Green Food in Every Meal
Green foods are known to promote wellness and prevent diseases. Include at least one green vegetable in some form or another in every meal. Broccoli, spinach, kale, and fenugreek are nutritious options to enhance soups, stir fried veggies, salads, and wraps. Use them in interesting ways and make creative recipes to add a fun element.
Opt for Simple Exercises
Devote 20 to 30 minutes each day to exercising. If running seems too much, start with brisk walking or jog slowly each morning. Early morning exercise boosts metabolism to help manage weight and increases focus and energy, resulting in happiness.
Walk or Stand Instead of Sitting
Sitting for too long at one place leads to back issues, increases insulin levels, and slows metabolism. If your job requires sitting at a desk for long hours, ensure you take a break regularly to refresh your mind. Try standing or walking while taking calls, talking to friends, or watching television.
Get Fresh Air
Being in touch with nature benefits the mind and body by preventing depression, decluttering the mind, promoting happy thoughts, as well as providing vitamin D from the sun. Simply spend a few minutes each day outdoors; do yoga, go for a jog, take the dog for a run, walk while taking calls, or simply bask in the morning sun.
If hard core workouts aren’t your thing, practice morning yoga sessions. This 5,000-year-old vedic wisdom is known to soothe and rejuvenate the body, mind, and soul with simple asanas, breathing techniques, and meditation. Yoga is great for stretching and relaxing the body. It also lowers stress, stimulates lymphatic flow, helps maintain weight, eliminates pains and aches, and clears the mind.
Do One Favorite Thing Every Day
Doing a fulfilling activity each day activates your ‘good hormones’ and makes you feel positive, cheerful, and calm. Something as simple as making a dessert, writing a blog, reading the daily column, watching a good show, or shopping can make you happy and cheerful. Do it preferably in the morning as you are most focused during this time.
Always Think Positive
Constant self-criticism can lead to depression, lack of self-respect, and poor mental health. Instead, learn from failures and move on. Look at them as set backs and not as “the end of road.” Program the mind to create positive thoughts, and constantly boost and motivate yourself to do better. Be sure of and appreciate your actions, thoughts, and words.
Increasing your social circle boosts confidence, relieves stress, improves your mood, and also promotes longevity and wellness. Ensure you meet friends or colleagues outside the office at least once a week, or simply eat lunch together at work. As humans are primarily social creatures by nature, social connections make one happy and gratified. It also allows you to make more friends, resulting in a sense of happiness.
De-Stress with a Good Snooze
Sleeping is a natural way for the body to unwind, get rest, rejuvenate itself, and prepare the mind for a fresh start. Skimping on a good eight-hour sleep makes one distracted and irritated. Depression, stress, food cravings, and weight gain are also closely related to improper sleep patterns. Have a dedicated sleep schedule and follow it religiously.
Try a New Activity Each Week
Boredom creeps its way into our lives as a result of doing the same things and following the same routine every single day. This results in unhappiness, indifference, and laziness. Try a new activity each week to have something different to look forward to. Learn calligraphy, an interesting dance form, a new exercise regime, or work in a different atmosphere to beat monotony.
Give Quality Time to Yourself Every Morning
The stress hormone, cortisol, is at its peak each morning. To beat morning stress and have a happy day, make it a routine to devote the first 10 minutes to yourself. Write a journal, say a prayer, meditate, or create positive thoughts.
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